Biblical Manhood

Voddie Baucham has a new book out called What He Must Be to Marry My Daughter.

What He Must Be to Marry My Daughter His daughter, Jasmine, whose blog I’ve just recently discovered, is hosting a giveaway of her Dad’s new book. We have Family Driven Faith, which we thoroughly enjoyed, and I look forward to reading this one too. Here’s what one reviewer said about it:

“Read this book, and then read it again, and then tear out the chapters and make little booklets of them so you can share them in small groups, and then start teaching this stuff to your sons so they can be this kind of men. And then teach it to your daughters so they kind find these kind of men.”

Even if I don’t win the giveaway, this one is sure to find a spot on our book shelf!


Story #1
A woman calls into a radio talk show asking for financial advice on how to deal with a small financial crisis. Throughout the course of her conversation with the show host, she begins to share details of her life. She gets by on a meager salary of $22,000, which is now being garnished to pay her debts. She does this while supporting two children, 18 and 14. She is single-handedly trying to handle the financial binds in which she finds herself.

No, she’s not a single mother. Her husband is unemployed, not due to disability or a slow job market, but by his own choosing. She states that he, “occupies his time with other things”. He refuses to discuss anything monetary with her. The IRS is after both of them because the husband neglected to pay his taxes back when he did have a job.

Story #2
A woman calls into a radio show asking for financial advice. She and her husband have a combined income of $110,000. She wants to know the best way to invest for the college education of her children, 5, 3 and 4 months. They have their modest home almost paid for, and their retirement funds are well on their way. Their monthly budget, which includes ample money for groceries, family entertainment, private daycare and school tuition and an in-home cleaning service, is working well for them. They are making great headway in life.

Story #1 is a true story. I was actually listening to the radio program. I wanted to scream at her husband! I don’t imagine I’m the only one who had this reaction. How could a man (and I use that term liberally) so completely abandon his God-given role and responsibility? What is he possibly thinking? Does he not realize the harm his actions are having on his family? How can he live with himself as he lets someone else fulfill that which he was meant to do?

What about story #2? What do we think about that one. My guess is that most people would think, “wow, they’re doing a great job”. Personally, I want to scream at such women! I’d ask the same questions I asked about the man: How could a woman so completely abandon her God-given role and responsibility? What is she possibly thinking? Does she not realize the harm her actions are having on her family? How can she live with herself as she lets someone else fulfill that which she was meant to do?

Those are my thoughts, but only after much contemplation. Even though I firmly believe that a woman’s place is in her home, as a minister to her husband and children, the truth is that my initial reaction to women who choose to hold a job isn’t nearly as violent as my reaction to men who choose not to. But what is the difference really? There is none; neither one is fulfilling their Biblical role. Women are filling the roles meant to be filled by men, and farming out the care and nurture of their children to paid hirelings. And the vast majority of the church is no better. After all, those church-run daycare programs are profitable. And two-income families make for a bigger tithe. We’re so afraid to speak the truth about the God-ordained roles of men and women. And our marriages and our children are taking the hit.

So in response to the man in the first story: For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.” 2 Thessalonians 3:10

And to the woman in the second: She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Proverbs 31:27

Okay, this got really long. I guess that’s what happens when I get a nice afternoon nap, followed by a double shot espresso in the evening.